The Five Core Principles to Thriving in Singleness

Singleness isn’t easy. Learning to Thrive in your singleness often takes faith, constant effort, and a desire to place God’s plan above your own. Thriving in Singleness is a podcast to broaden the conversation of singleness to help you to do your singleness well. If you can learn to do your singleness well, it will help you to date well, and will help you to marry well. Even if marriage is not God’s calling for your life, persuing God’s desire for your life will be full of adventure. After over 70 conversations on our podcast specifically about Singleness, here is what we have found to be the 5 core principles to Thriving in Singleness, as discussed in episode 75:

• Identy: The most important thing to Thriving in Singleness is having your identity in Christ. That differentiates the underlying motives of your life from serving yourself to serving the Lord. Your ultimate desire should be to glorify God wherever He has you. Your persuit shouldn’t be marriage, and it shouldn’t be singleness. Your pursuit should be God. If your identity is in Christ, you should faithfully read your bible and pray. If your trusting God with your love life, you need to know who it is your trusting.

• Purpose: Finding purpose in where God has you is important. This allows you to focus on serving and glorifying him no matter the circumstances, and wherever He has you in life. When you serve him, you find purpose in where you are in life and what God has you doing. This makes every part in life more exciting when you find God’s purpose in it.

• Community: Finding people to do life with you and discuss your trials with. Just because your single doesn’t mean you have to do life alone! Find people you enjoy being around, and who challenge you to grow deeper in your faith. Often times community is found alongside serving your purpose.

• Purity: Avoiding the lustfull temptation of the world allows you to look at people at more than just a collection of body parts. God calls us to remain pure, and this makes it easier to build genuite connection with people. Community is important because they can keep you accountable, and enable you to glorify God by remaining pure. The bad habits that are developed in sineleness are carried over into a relationship and carried over into a marriage.

• Surrender: Some people are able to submit their desires to the Lord and trust Him wherever life is taking them. Other’s it requires divine intervention, bringing them to a point of surrender. Surrender is often a day to day process, trusting Him one day at a time. But when you’re doing all the other parts of Thriving in Singleness well, it makes surrender much more possible.

  Be sure to listen in to the podcast to hear from a variety of guests about Thriving in singleness. Many of the guests are single, some of them are married and offering a hindsight perspective, on how you can do your singleness well, even when it seems like it would be impossible.